Stop Telling People About Your Goals

It’s normal to tell people about your goals.

Why wouldn’t you? “These are my goals. These are the things I’m working on. If you want to know who I am and what I’m about, this will allow you to understand me.”

But telling people about your goals comes with a cost: the illusion of progress.

Telling people about your goals feels good. Really good. Too good. In my experience, your brain can’t tell the difference between telling people about your goals, and actually making progress on them. You tell people what you want to do, you feel satisfied… and then you watch Netflix for 4 hours.

Stop telling people about your goals. Only let yourself be satisfied when you’ve made progress or achieved your goal – it doesn’t matter whether other people like or approve of your goal. Don’t seek approval or admiration, seek results. Your monkey brain will lie to you about how much progress you’ve made – but numbers don’t lie.

If asked about what you do, talk about something you’ve already done or did today, not about what you want to do later. Don’t seek approval. Seek progress. Seek results. Measure where you are and where you want to go.

Stop telling people about your goals.