“No matter what happens, I will be okay.”

There is a lot going on in the world right now.

A pandemic. Protests. Mass unemployment. Riots. Everywhere you look, there is something to worry about or be anxious about – and thanks to the 24/7 news cycle and social media, even smaller events that aren’t part of a larger story get turned into a bigger issue than they actually are.

But for the most part, there’s a lot of stuff to legitimately worry about right now.

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed. It’s easy to feel like the world is a chaotic mess, that you are powerless, and that you are a victim at the whims of random chance.

I don’t want to feel or think this way. I don’t think it’s useful, or healthy. Instead, I’m trying to adopt a belief I’ve heard in a few places:

“No matter what happens, I will be okay.”

Let’s be clear: This is a belief. This is a mindset. This is a narrative. This is not a statement of certainty about the future, this a statement about how to interpret the things that happen to you – and a statement to help choose how to react to the world around you.

Think of the small things people dread on a daily basis. Asking someone out, and getting laughed at. Asking for a raise, and having it rejected. Speaking your mind, and having people disagree with you. Then think of the larger fears: Disease, war, natural disasters.

You might get rejected. You might be in the middle of a natural disaster. These things might happen to you. Just remember:

“No matter what happens, I will be okay.” It’s not a statement of being immune to disaster, it’s a statement that whatever happens:

  1. The things you fear won’t be as bad as you think they are
  2. You are capable of getting through whatever life throws at you
  3. If worst comes to worst, problems can be solved, and you’ll be okay in the end

It’s a statement of confidence. You believe in yourself. You have a mindset dedicated to empowering you in the face of life, rather than being anxious. And you have a narrative that turns the disasters and challenges of life into solved problems.

It’s very difficult to solve a problem or face a challenge if you don’t fundamentally believe in yourself.

“No matter what happens, I will be okay” isn’t about arrogance, narcissism, or false confidence in the face of life. Bad things can happen to you just like everyone, and chances are you won’t enjoy them. But in the end, you’ll still have yourself, and have learned something for when you face tomorrow. This too will pass, and you might even emerge from your trials stronger.

It’s going to be very hard to believe this if you’ve lacked confidence for your entire life – but now is the time to start trying. Start being a little more honest – or at least lie less. Do something that scares you every day, even if it just means trying a new food. Talk to someone you’ve never talked to before – especially that cute girl/boy/person that makes you nervous. Start thinking about how to get through disasters and challenges, and not just how much you don’t like them. Act like you’ll be okay, until you believe it.

We live in interesting times, times that grow more interesting by the day. But whatever happens, whatever comes up, whatever challenge gets thrown your way, just remember:

“No matter what happens, I will be okay.”